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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns!
- National Competition on Worries! - National Competition on Worries!
- The studio looks nicer. - You're right.
- We have beautiful guests today. - The stage set has also changed.
- That's right. - The stage set has changed.
- Yes. - It's nice and bright.
He's a very handsome man,
- Park Gwang Hyun. - It's nice to meet you.
- Long time no see. - Yes.
Next guest is the sexy idol singer,
- Kwon So Hyun of 4minute! - Kwon So Hyun!
- Wow. - Welcome!
He is really popular these days.
- He's more handsome in person. - Yes, he is.
It's actor Kim Hye Seong.
(Handsome actor Kim Hye Seong)
He's the vocalist of VOS, Kim Kyung Rok.
Welcome.
- It's been a long time, Gwang Hyun. - Yes, it has.
- You don't seem to have gotten old. - I know.
How old are you this year?
- Me? - Yes.
I turned 40 years old.
(He looks much younger than his actual age!)
- Really? - He looks younger than his age.
- Wow. - Really?
I heard you were very nervous before coming to the show.
I almost couldn't make it.
I and my wife are expecting our baby very soon.
- When are you expecting the baby? - Actually...
we were expecting our baby yesterday.
- Wow. - And?
Do you think you might leave in the middle of the show?
If I suddenly disappear, it means I'm on my way to see my baby.
- We will understand. - Thank you.
No matter how important the show is, family is more important.
Hye Seong should always keep his nickname...
- "The Little Prince". - I know.
I turned 30 this year.
- Are you 30 years old? - You are already 30 years old?
- Goodness. - I can't believe you're 30!
These days, I feel worried especially about...
how I'm going to survive in the world.
- Survive? - How you're going to survive?
You can survive by eating.
(You can survive by eating.)
The members of 4minute...
- are very cute in person. - I know.
- But the group is seen as sexy. - Yes.
Doesn't that bother you sometimes?
I feel more comfortable because of it.
Many female groups feel uncomfortable...
when they're drinking and socialising with people.
But it's easier for us to socialise with people,
because they think we can handle anything.
Can you all drink a lot?
No, we can't.
- Are you very feminine? - That's not completely true.
- Not completely but still feminine? - Right, we're still feminine.
That's a great image to have.
Hasn't it been a while since all members of V.O.S got together?
It has been seven years.
- As a complete group? - Yes.
- Including Park Ji Heon? - Yes.
Could you sing since you haven't been on the show for a while?
I will sing the title song, "The Only One for Me".
("The Only One for Me" by V.O.S)
(It's a great song.)
(He conveys his sorrow.)
(Kim Kyung Rok is a great singer.)
Did you have a drink before coming on because you were nervous to be...
- on the show? - No.
But why are you blushing?
I'm sweating a lot, perhaps because I haven't been on TV quite a while.
I heard he is a big fan of our show "Hello".
When he wasn't busy,
he wanted to watch the show from the audience seat.
- So he asked the staff... - I asked one of the staff...
- if I could just sit and watch. - As an audience?
But he said no.
- I see. - Of course he would say no.
Even if I were the staff,
- I would have said no. - You're a celebrity.
What is your concern these days, Kyung Rok?
When I'm lying on an electric blanket...
my body feels numb as if I'm getting electric shocks.
- Electric shocks? - Electric shocks?
- You get electric shocks like this? - Perhaps...
it's time to change your electric blanket.
- So I got a new one, - But do you still feel the same?
but my body still feels numb.
- Whenever I use it... - How about using a spa bath mat?
I'm still paying off the electric blanket.
- I see. - Oh, I see.
I keep waking up because my legs become numb.
- It's a concern. - It really is.
I didn't think he would tell us a real concern.
- It's a real life concern. - I know.
Whenever my husband goes fishing,
- he takes his rubber boat... - What?
and goes fishing in the sea.
He also has two kayaks.
- Wow. - These are the kayaks.
A vessel approached with impressive speed...
and hit the side of my kayak.
- I fainted and fell into the water. - Really?
- You lost your consciousness? - What happened next?
A ray of light made the water sparkle like in the movies.
I thought to myself, "That's beautiful."
Has your husband changed?
- Yes, he has changed a lot. - Really?
When I asked him to stop riding the kayak,
he pretended not to listen and simply ignored me.
But now, he promised...
not to go out as much as before.
He said he will only kayak at a river or a lake.
Are you going to kayak on a lake instead of the sea?
At a river or a lake?
(He looks at his wife.)
Yes, that's right.
For now.
(What's going on with him?)
Let's see if "Adventurous Husband" wins for the second time.
We will give a 1,000 dollar gift certificate to the winner today.
Let's see what keywords we have for this week.
Show us the keywords please.
We have three concerns.
- "Love Me Back". - "Lazybones".
"Bring My Girlfriend Back".
Hello.
I'm a man in his 30s in a three years relationship.
In this fast changing world...
the reason why our relationship could last this long...
is that...
I kept holding back my anger to be a good boyfriend.
We were very happy in the beginning of our relationship.
"I made your favourite dish, spicy chicken stew."
"I feel satisfied simply from watching you eat."
"Let me give you a massage."
"Does it feel good?"
"You're the only one for me."
Do you know how my girlfriend has changed?
"Give me the remote control."
(She's completely changed.)
Who is that?
"I'm washing the dishes right now."
- "The remote control..." - And he's washing dishes?
"is right next to you."
"I don't want to get up."
"Hurry up and give me the remote control."
I got annoyed but held back my anger and gave it to her.
- He held back his anger again. - "Give me some water."
"Get me some water. I'm thirsty!"
Has she lost her mind?
(Did something happen to her?)
- I know. - She's become a different person.
"Massage my feet. Rub it harder."
"Remove my makeup. Remove my makeup!"
- What? - Goodness.
"There's a spot left. Remove it for me."
- Is she ill? - Well...
(Is she ill?)
She asks me to do everything for her...
as if she's a newborn baby.
When we were first dating, and if I touched her hand,
she said, "Goodness, you're making me feel shy."
She was very shy back then, but now...
She screams, "Hug me, hug me!"
(Hug me until my bones crack.)
- "Hug me!" - Don't make things up.
- What are you saying? - It's written on the letter.
"Hug me when I say it nicely!"
- It's really written here. - Really?
- "Hug me when I say it nicely!" - Really?
- It's really written here. - Yes.
"Hug me when I say it nicely!"
(Hug me when I say it nicely!)
Wow.
But she completely changes when we're with my friends.
"Here are your spoon and chopsticks."
"Have some water."
"You should eat the meat with the vegetables."
"Is it delicious, Honey?"
"Your girlfriend is so sweet."
"You are lucky."
His friends would be jealous of him.
She pretends as if she takes good care of me in front of others.
No wonder I feel so frustrated.
Then when we come back home...
"Didn't I tell you to throw out the food waste?"
"Didn't I tell you?"
"Hug me, hug me!"
"Hug me when I say it nicely!"
("Hug me when I say it nicely!")
She is so different.
How could a person change completely like this?
Please turn back...
to the sweet person she used to be.
(Please turn back to the sweet person she used to be.)
- "Hug me" was shocking. - Yes.
- "Hug me when I say it nicely!" - "Hug me when I say it nicely!"
"Hug me when I say it nicely!"
Hasn't it been a year since you got married?
Has anything changed?
In the beginning of my relationship,
I showed her how I may change in the future.
- That's what I did. - You showed her first?
- You became nicer later on. - If I care for her more later...
- that becomes a good change. - Right.
So we're still doing well.
That is smart.
How badly did you treat her in the beginning?
I would yell, "Buy it and bring it here!"
"Buy me something."
She might feel sad that you don't yell at her anymore.
She often asks why I've become nicer.
- She might have liked his yelling. - Right.
She might say to her friends, "When my boyfriend yells, he's so cool."
You may be too nice to her.
"He tells me to hug him right now or else."
("He tells me to hug him right now or else.")
(My goodness.)
I heard a story about Sean.
- Sean? - Yes, Sean.
He and his wife are very close,
but they've never farted in front of each other.
For a long time they never farted in front of each other.
One day, he was alone in the living room.
His wife was in the bedroom, so he farted.
He farted, and she came out exactly at that moment.
- So? - He was so embarrassed that he...
(He pretended he was beatboxing.)
That nice man was like...
(He gave a beatbox performance!)
He was embarrassed.
He didn't want his wife to know.
- Yes. - So he pretended to beatbox.
She was fine in the beginning of the relationship.
But as time passed, she started to reveal her true self.
She seems like she has multiple personalities.
I know. I was so surprised.
Let's meet him.
Please come on out.
(Who is the man concerned about his changed girlfriend?)
(Choi Ji Hyuk)
(He slides down.)
Hello.
When did she start to change?
We've been dating for almost 1000 days now.
(We've been dating for almost 1000 days now.)
She started to change about a year ago.
Did you hear Dong Yup reading the story?
- Is she that bad? - She's not that bad, is she?
She's worse.
- She's worse? - Yes.
- How? - How did she change?
- She's four years younger than me. - Okay.
When we started dating, she used to call me...
- "Honey" or "Babe". - Okay.
But from a year ago,
she started to call me, "Hey".
When she calls me that and...
I pretend I didn't hear her,
- she calls me "You". - Yes.
So it went from "Honey" to "Babe" to "Hey" to "You".
- Yes. - "Honey" to "Babe" to "Hey".
We are living together since I was thinking of getting married to her.
I'm confused whether I am her boyfriend...
or her servant.
She treats me like a servant.
"Hug me when I say it nicely."
- Yes, that one. - In what situations...
she says these things?
When I wake up in the middle of the night...
and go to the bathroom, she's still in bed.
So she's lying down, and I am moving around the room.
She says, "What are you doing? Come over here right now."
I pretend I can't hear her.
- Then she says, "Hey!" - "Hey!"
"Come here now before I get angry."
"Hurry up."
- That hurts my pride. - Of course.
- I'm a man too. - And it's early in the morning.
It makes me look stupid.
You should tell her.
"Ask me nicely, then."
Yes. "Ask me nicely, then."
- I let her win. - And you hug her?
No, I don't hug her.
I just...
- Yes. - You lean on her?
- That's how he protects his pride. - Yes.
If I go to her and hug her,
she puts her feet up.
She puts her feet up? Does she ask you to massage her?
She asks me to massage her feet.
He has so many concerns.
There was a guy who massaged his wife all his life.
I heard that he had to massage...
- his wife everyday. - One hour a day.
- I am not lying. - One hour.
I massage her five hours a day.
Everyday?
(He's shocked.)
When we wake up in the morning, I massage her for one to two hours.
Before going to bed, I massage her until she falls asleep.
What are the things that she forced you to do?
She called me from the bathroom.
She said she was in big trouble. So I went there.
And it turns out the toilet was clogged.
- She told me to unclog it. - Okay.
And her excrement was still there.
Yes. So I told her...
(I don't want to think about it.)
I told her I couldn't do it because it's dirty.
Then she asked me,
"Don't you love me?"
- "If you love me..." - Oh dear.
He doesn't love your excrement.
(He doesn't love your excrement.)
Let's meet his girlfriend.
Hello.
- Hello. - It's nice to meet you.
(Who is his girlfriend that changed so much?)
He's saying that you have changed too much.
Do you admit that?
No, I don't.
I never thought it was something to seriously worry about.
- So, you haven't changed? - You haven't changed?
I am just expressing myself strongly. That is all.
Why did you start doing that?
In the past, he used to be...
a short tempered person.
So I...
always had to be careful not to upset him.
I just kept quiet.
Are you taking revenge now then?
I am not taking revenge.
- At first, you were intimidated. - Yes, I was.
But when I asserted my will, he started to listen to me.
He became a little nicer.
That's why it became like this.
- You made her this way. - Then...
In the past, she was just intimidated by you.
- What were you like before? - In the past,
I caused a lot of trouble.
I felt really bad about that, so I tried to be nicer to her.
And I think that's why she started to assert her will.
I stopped contacting many of my friends and...
I changed my cell phone number.
- You got rid of girls' numbers. - No, not just girls.
- Even guys' numbers? - I just deleted...
- all of my contacts. - Why?
She doesn't like me meeting people.
- Even your male friends? - Yes.
She only wants me to stay with her.
She always reads my text messages.
She looks through all the text messages I got,
and if she finds out that some girl texted me,
she tells me to call the girl and tell her I have a girlfriend.
- But that girl is nobody. - Right.
Why do I have to tell that to a stranger?
When you say, "I have a girlfriend."
- She would reply, "So what?" - She didn't even ask me.
So have you ever called strangers and explained?
- I called them in front of her. - Because he didn't want to fight.
"Hello, I am the person who called you for my business."
- "You remember me, right?" - "Yes."
"I have a girlfriend, you know."
Was it like that? How did you tell them?
- All of a sudden... - You have to call in front of her?
Once, someone called me to move my car.
To move your car.
- "To move my car". - That's funny.
It was an unknown number, right?
- Wow. - And?
- So... - You called the stranger?
- You called her. - I said, "I have a girlfriend."
- What? - And she was listening.
She said, "What are you talking about?" I said, "I'm sorry."
I always have to make sure it's nothing.
Why are you so suspicious of him? It's like you're making him a fool.
But he does the same thing to me.
(What?)
(He does that too?)
He does that too.
- What? - He does that to me, too.
- When? These days or before? - What does he do?
He did that in the past.
- How about now? - Now he's better.
But he did that too in the past.
Tell us more about it.
He's very kind to girls.
When we go to a restaurant or to a convenience store,
- he's so nice to the girls there. - What does he say to them?
He tells them, "Happy New Year!"
"Happy New Year!"
I say that, too.
- Me too. - Why do you do that?
- Because it's New Year! - But I was right next to him.
He was just wishing them a Happy New Year.
- But it's not nice when I'm there. - Now that she said that,
I remembered something.
One time, we went to a restaurant.
The waitress said, "Enjoy your meal."
- I said, "Thank you." - Okay.
But suddenly she wouldn't eat anything.
- She was dying to eat it before. - Okay.
She asked, "Why are you flirting with her?"
How did you talk to her?
- Can you show us? - "Thank you." That's all.
You should have said, "Thank you. I have a girlfriend."
(You should have said, "Thank you. I have a girlfriend.")
"Thank you. She's my girlfriend."
When you're with your girlfriend, you are not supposed to be...
- nice to other girls, right? - Don't you want him to be nice?
- Do you want him to be rude? - "Thank you!"
(Thank you!)
- "What?" - "We will enjoy the food."
"Thank you."
But he doesn't have to talk to them first.
- He shouldn't talk to them first. - That's right.
Can you give us an example?
He says, "Happy New Year. It must be hard working on New Year."
- He's very polite. - He's a polite young man.
Doesn't everyone do that?
- You can't say, "Work harder". - That's right.
- "Work harder". - "Work harder".
You said she's very modest when she's with other people...
- and when she's outside. - You said she's very modest.
I don't know why she's like that.
When she's with me alone,
she treats me badly, right?
But when there are many people around...
Look at her now. She pretends to be very modest.
She just tries to look cute.
And people acknowledge her as a good girlfriend.
On Christmas Eve,
she was upset that she didn't get to eat what she wanted.
I was tired and wasn't in the mood to make her feel better.
Then she messaged me.
She asked me to...
- press 'like' on her post. - Okay.
But we just had a fight.
(They just had a fight.)
Which picture was it?
- Which picture was it? - Seriously...
- You must have felt bad. - She asked you to 'like' her post.
- She asked me to press 'like'. - Which picture was it?
- They prepared the picture. - Okay.
That's the one.
But, you two look adorable.
We took that before we fought.
And then we went to the restaurant.
I see. She posted that picture after you had a fight.
- They're wearing matching outfits. - But look what she wrote.
She wrote that after you fought. "This is our third winter together."
"Let's stay happy for many years to come."
- This is... - What frustrates me is this.
People around us see that picture of us.
- But we are actually... - They'd think you're sweet.
Were you trying to make him feel better...
by posting that picture?
Why did you post that picture when you just had a fight?
Because it was Christmas,
I thought I needed to post something.
Why did you have to post it after the fight?
I didn't put too much thought into it.
You're not dating to impress other people.
I think we don't have to show the whole world...
that we had an argument.
(Are we a fake couple?)
Why do you...
act differently in front of other people?
It's for his image.
Guys are not supposed to have their pride hurt...
when they are outside, you know?
But is it okay to hurt his pride...
- at home? - Why can't you treat him...
the same inside the house? His pride shouldn't be hurt.
When I treat him nicely when it's just the two of us,
he will take it for granted, and he might start treating me badly.
She's thinking ahead. You can just act...
Is there something you want to say?
No, I shouldn't cut her off when she's talking.
If he cuts her girlfriend off,
- he is going to be blamed later. - He asked you to interrupt.
So he kept asking me, "Can I say something?"
"Can I say something?"
- This is crazy. What is it? - Or...
- did he treat you badly at first? - I...
- Did he treat me badly? - Yes.
He became a different person whenever he was drunk.
How did he change?
Whenever he was drunk,
he would fight with other people.
- He was like that. - Well...
- People do that when they're young. - What do you want to say?
She can treat me badly outside.
I want her to treat me nicely when we are alone.
- When you are alone with her. - I want her to respect me.
I want her to respect me as a person.
- But when she treats you badly... - We are a couple.
Why do we have to come here and talk about this here?
You sent us the story.
(You sent us the story.)
His family is here.
Who are they?
It's my elder sister and her husband.
Your elder sister and her husband.
- Hello. - Hello.
Yes.
Welcome.
How do you feel about this?
You've been listening to them talk.
My brother is such a troublemaker.
But she was always there for him,
and I loved that about her.
So I think of her as my own sister, and we are close.
- Did you know it was this bad? - No, I don't think she did.
I really had no idea.
It was my first time hearing about this.
I never knew about this. I didn't know she had this side to her.
I see. Do you want to say something too?
- She's your wife. - Yes.
Did she change after you got married?
Well...
(We understand.)
Before we got married,
she never got upset.
But these days, when I come home after a long day at work,
she says, "Why didn't you take out the garbage?"
- "When are you going to do it?" - The garbage.
"How long are you going to leave it out like this?"
She says those things.
That's not bad.
- You should help her with that. - She's cute.
There are other stories too. Should I write my concerns and send it in?
(Should I write my concerns and send it in?)
So they are planning to get married one day.
Do you have any advice for them?
Our mother is strongly...
opposed to them dating.
She doesn't approve of this relationship,
so they broke up for a while.
They broke up for about six months.
And I continued to persuade my mum.
I told her to think about...
how she would feel if someone is against...
me dating their son.
I continued to persuade her and...
they got back together.
I want them to get married and form a happy family.
What do you think? His mother will watch...
- this episode on TV. - Right.
But I don't know...
why he's so worried.
I don't know what his worries are.
He said you treat him like a servant.
That's a worry.
(She asserted her will to control her boyfriend.)
(He doesn't like the way he's treated by his girlfriend.)
If the things get more serious between you two...
you are not married yet, but you will get married one day.
And you will have a baby, too.
When these emotions pile up and turn into a fight,
you will be living together while resenting each other.
And that's really terrible.
In what ways do you want her not to change?
In what ways do you want her...
to go back to how she was before?
I can accept...
- her getting upset at me and all. - Okay.
But I hope her face...
won't change anymore.
- What? - What?
(What is he talking about?)
- What are you talking about? - What do you mean?
(Does her face keep changing?)
Does she keep getting injections?
I want her to...
- not change her face anymore. - Does she get plastic surgeries?
I want her to stop getting plastic surgeries.
Did her face keep changing?
- Yes. - Doesn't she discuss it with you?
When I first started dating her,
she didn't like her jaw.
So she wanted to get...
a jaw reduction.
She kept saying she wanted to get a jaw reduction surgery.
I suggested her...
going on a diet.
She said, "I don't want to go on a diet. I can't give up on food."
So we came up with an agreement.
We agreed that she would get a liposuction.
When she came back from the clinic,
her face was this big.
And her face was wrapped in bandages.
In the end, she got a jaw reduction surgery...
as well as the liposuction.
(She got a jaw reduction surgery without a discussion.)
- Yes. - She got it done.
- So... - She got her face carved.
I got a loan and...
- You got a loan? - I...
Yes. for one year and four months,
I only slept three hours a day.
- You had to pay the loan for her? - Her face was all swollen,
so she couldn't work.
So you paid for everything.
- Yes. - Isn't it too much to...
- get a loan for plastic surgery? - I know.
I was going to pay him back.
But because of my swollen jaw,
I couldn't work.
I thought he was going to be happy...
if I looked more beautiful.
But right now, he wants you to stop.
But you want to do more.
- I want to get braces. - She already made an appointment.
- Braces? - Yes.
- I don't want surgeries anymore. - It's going to be...
- expensive too. - It is.
He promised me that he would pay for it.
(Oh my gosh.)
Look at his sister and brother-in-law.
- Well... - They are changing their minds now.
- Why did you agree to do that? - Because...
last August,
she saw her best friend after she had braces...
and she got jealous.
Since then, she's been pestering me every day for four months.
I once told her that she couldn't do it.
I told her firmly.
But after that, I became...
invisible to her.
She didn't talk to me. She would eat alone.
I was in the house, and she ate alone.
- That's really mean. - That's terrible.
- You have to eat together. - What we're trying to say...
You're too mean.
I am sorry, but when do you...
feel you are loved?
I rarely feel that I'm being loved these days.
I don't know if I really...
Have you ever thought about breaking up with her?
Honestly, it's a lie if I say I haven't thought of it.
It did cross my mind.
But I thought she would change.
I have been thinking...
about our situation,
and I thought I had to tell her how I honestly feel.
You wanted to let her know what you're thinking and...
- how you are feeling about her. - Yes. I wanted...
to shock her.
- You want to tell her. - I wanted to show her that...
this is how much I am struggling.
If she was like this from the beginning,
- I wouldn't have dated her. - Of course.
But she wasn't like this in the beginning.
She's changed too much.
(It won't be easy to change.)
Were you aware that he was this serious?
But he said something like that...
when I had my jaw reduced.
So I never...
(He sighs.)
thought it was serious.
- Until now... - Can you see that it's serious?
It's not just about the surgery. It's about everything.
This is a warning sign for your relationship.
I don't know.
- You can't sense it. - You don't think it's serious.
- I don't think it's serious. - Think about it.
This is going to be aired nation wide.
And he came out here to talk about how he feels.
So why don't you feel that this is serious?
Right now, his sister's face...
has changed completely.
(Maybe I shouldn't have persuaded mum.)
And when your boyfriend's parents watch this, it will be worse.
If you don't fix it, it is going to be tough.
You should take this more seriously.
I am curious.
If you ever get married,
what kind of wife do you want to be?
I want to treat him better...
like how I treat him when other people are with us.
You'll be nicer, after you get married?
When you get married, you won't be able to break up.
You're treating him like this because you could break up?
You never know what will happen.
- I think I was too ahead of her. - Yes.
I hope you find the common ground.
Please say something to her.
Recently, it was my birthday.
My birthday is on January 1st.
So we had a family dinner to celebrate both events.
- My girlfriend... - Talk to her directly.
Ha Young.
I understand that you can feel sad.
But I have to take care of you...
and I also have to take care of my family.
I hope you will try...
I will try harder to give you what you want.
So I hope you will treat me better.
What happened on your birthday?
She wanted to go to a beach and...
watch the sunrise together.
She wanted to spend the first day of the year together.
She felt sad she couldn't do that.
Gosh...
- Love is very difficult. - Yes.
Love is about understanding and being considerate to each other.
There are so many things we want to say, but...
that will take too much time.
So everyone feels bad.
If you think it's something to be worried about, please vote.
I don't think it's something to worry about.
I think it's a problem that needs to be fixed.
So I won't press the button.
- It's not enough to be a worry. - Yes.
I think it's something to worry about.
I also think it's something to worry about.
It's something to worry about.
When only one person keeps giving, the person will get tired of it.
You should open up...
and find out what it is that you really want.
If you can identify with Ji Hyuk,
press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
Okay. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Stop. - Time is up.
I saw some people's faces.
They were like, "What's the use of pressing the button?"
(It's useless.)
- They gave up voting. - Yes. Some did.
Lastly, you should...
say something to your boyfriend.
I will try my best to...
go back to how I was before and to be more considerate.
I want us to stay as a cute couple.
Tell him precisely what you will do.
I won't ask you to do everything for me.
- That's better. - She has improved.
All right. Let's see how many votes they received.
Please reveal the result.
(The result is announced.)
Maybe it's one.
- The last number is seven. - They will get a lot of votes.
Is it 167 or 157?
- It's 117. - That's a lot.
A lot of people...
- thought they still have chance. - Many people did not vote.
(They survived.)
The next story is called "Lazybones".
Hello.
I am a housewife from Daegu.
For the last 26 years,
I took care of my husband...
and my children.
I lived really hard.
And the day my daughter got married,
I thought I was finally...
free of responsibility.
One day, my phone rings.
"Mum, it's an emergency!"
"I cut my hand, and it hurts."
"Please come to my place now."
My phone rings again.
(It was her daughter again.)
"Mum! It's an emergency."
"My husband is working tonight."
"I'm too scared to sleep alone. Please come to my house."
Even though she is now married,
my daughter calls me all the time.
Once when she was pregnant, she called me and said,
"Mum, it's an emergency."
"What could be an emergency in this early morning?"
"I want to have some snack."
"Please buy some and bring them to me."
I had to wait an hour for the shop to open...
just to deliver the snack to my daughter.
(She went through a lot of trouble.)
That's unbelievable.
And this is what happened after she gave birth.
"Mum! This really is an emergency."
"Your granddaughter might die."
"She is bleeding everywhere. Please come over to my place".
When I arrived, she went,
"There you are. She pooped."
"She pooped."
- "Please change the diapers." - She is asked to change diapers.
On the day when I had to go to the hospital for a cancer checkup,
she called me again. "Mum!"
"This is an emergency. My daughter needs to go to the hospital."
"Please come over."
"I'm having an emergency, too. I have to go to the hospital."
"How can you do that to me?"
"Get the checkup after you take my daughter to the hospital."
My goodness.
What have I done to deserve this?
I have struggled to raise her, and this is how she repays me.
I feel like I don't matter.
My dear, I want to live my life now.
This is what I want to say to you. For goodness sake,
raise your own child, okay?
(Raise your own child.)
Her daughter is like a baby.
- I agree. - She still relies on her mother.
- I think she was spoiled. - I know.
Is anyone here still dependent on their parents?
Rather than being dependent, I formed an alliance with my mother.
- An alliance? - Of what sorts?
When my dad drinks a lot,
- my father would pass out. - Right.
Since we knew he would spend his money,
- we used to split his money. - You took his money.
That's what we did.
- You took the money in his wallet? - No.
He forgets about the money in his back pockets.
That's how we formed an alliance.
Let's invite the woman who has an overly dependent daughter...
to the stage. Please come on out.
(Who is the woman with a daughter who asks for help all the time?)
(Lee Jong Suk)
Please give her a hand.
Let's hear from her.
You must have a lot of pent up frustration.
It's hard to believe the stories you told us.
She was treated like a princess when she was younger.
She did whatever she wanted.
- You spoiled her. - That's right.
I thought I would be free once she got married.
It has been four years since she got married,
but she still makes me run errands all the time.
To maintain her beauty,
she insists in going to nail salons and yoga classes.
So she makes me babysit her kids while she is away.
(She makes her mother babysit her kids.)
Whenever my daughter and her husband go to a sauna,
- they take me with them. - That's nice.
- It sounds nice, right? - Right.
They only do it so that I can babysit their kids.
- They make you babysit? - Yes.
That way, they can enjoy their time at the sauna.
- Do you live close by to her? - I want to know that, too.
It takes 10 minutes by car.
- It's too close. - She lives too close.
It's better to make your daughter...
- live far away after marriage. - I see.
Your daughter must give you some pocket money.
- You look after her children. - She should pay her.
- Of course she should. - I know.
- She doesn't give me anything. - What?
- Her money is her money, - My goodness.
- and my money is her money. - Her daughter is a bully.
- She is a bully. - She only takes money from me.
Then your son-in-law must go, "Thank you."
I'm sure your son-in-law gives you some pocket money.
That's a secret.
They formed an alliance.
You should refuse your daughter's demands.
She asks me for help because I'm her mother.
I would feel bad if I refuse.
- She spoiled her daughter. - Mothers are like that.
I did spoil her.
It's only my eldest daughter who is spoiled.
- It's because you were too nice. - I know.
I feel like this episode is a "spoiled people" special.
Does she call you when you are taking some time off?
You could be meeting your friends.
I wish she wouldn't call me when I'm meeting my friends.
When I'm having lunch with my friends, she texts me.
- What does she say? - "Mum, hurry up and come on over."
- "It's an emergency." - "It's an emergency."
My friends says, "Your daughter does this all the time. Leave her."
(Your daughter does this all the time. Leave her.)
- I like her friends. - Do mothers use such expressions?
- Yes. - I see.
- They tell me to ignore her. - "Ignore her."
Then she calls me again.
So my friends can't help but say, "You should just go."
- Your phone won't stop ringing. - That's right.
"Don't ruin the meeting and just go."
And when I arrive at her house...
Does she ask you to change diapers?
Apparently, her baby kept her awake the night before.
- She called because she was tired? - Yes. She needs to get some sleep.
- She wants you to babysit. - That's right.
I can't believe a daughter would do that to her mother.
She has two children.
When I have one on my back, the other one asks me for a hug.
Then I have to carry both of them on my front and my back.
- And your daughter sleeps? - Yes.
Let's meet her daughter...
and ask why she does this.
Hello.
- Hello. - All right.
Most people aren't even clapping.
- Only a few clapped for her. - They don't want to.
The audience is mad at her.
Why do you call your mother for help all the time?
I got married at a young age.
- How old were you? - I was 22 years old.
- Go on. - So I needed...
a lot of help from my mother.
- Because you didn't know anything. - That's right.
It's still rude to make her come when she is with her friends.
I was really tired. The baby would wake up every hour.
Have you considered raising children on your own?
No, I'm not ready.
I'll need help until my children enter middle school.
(What is she saying?)
Until they go to middle school?
- Yes. - Why?
There is something my mum says to me all the time.
"Raise your own children. Stop coming to the house."
"Stop asking me for help." She says this all the time,
but I'm her daughter and I need my mother's help.
(She needs her mother's help.)
So I want my mother to help me.
Since you ask her for many favours,
- you should give her pocket money. - I know.
- She helps you out a lot. - Well,
I gave her an allowance.
It costs money to buy snacks and things for children.
- Right. - So I gave her money.
- That's not pocket money. - That's different.
- That money goes to your children. - I see.
- Of course you pay for the snacks. - How about giving her compensation?
Since she worked hard, you could go, "Mum, use this money for a sauna."
"Mum, use this money to buy clothes."
- "Mum, this is for you." - I haven't done that.
- Get your hands off of me. - Okay.
(Get your hands off of me.)
(He is so sensitive.)
Why haven't you given her pocket money?
She is my mother. I didn't think I need to...
pay her to babysit my children.
- Exactly. She is your mother. - You should pay her even more.
That way, she can feel better.
I thought it was okay for her to look after her grandchildren.
It is okay but you should still pay her.
I didn't think I needed to give her an allowance.
Daughters may depend on their mothers after marriage.
But you ask for your mother's help even for things...
you can do by yourself.
I called her over when my child had a high fever.
She had to be hospitalised, but I couldn't carry two children.
So I asked her to go to the hospital with me.
- That's understandable. - That's a reasonable request.
But you once told your mother that your daughter was badly hurt.
- You lied to her. - You lied to her.
You said she was bleeding out, but she only needed her diapers changed.
It wasn't a lie.
- Was she bleeding? - The baby food...
My goodness.
I cut my finger on a blender while making baby food.
And since I had two children to carry,
- I needed her help. - In that case,
did you let your finger bleed until your mother came over?
I had to show it to her.
You really didn't put a bandage on your finger?
- A bandage? - She is ridiculous.
I wrapped my finger with some tissue.
I wanted to show her why I needed her help.
So you are saying you only called when you really needed her help.
- That's right. - Only when you needed her.
Your mother must have put a bandage on your wound.
- No, she didn't. - I didn't do it.
- Then who did? - Someone called an ambulance.
- She's done this many times. - An ambulance?
(An ambulance was sent to her.)
(This is getting out of hand.)
She said her finger had been injured.
- Okay. - She said she was bleeding a lot.
- I was very startled to hear that. - Of course.
So I advised her to call the ambulance first.
- And then I went over to her place. - I see.
When I got there, Emergency Response Officers were there with her.
And she had a single bandage on her finger.
(She had a single bandage on her finger.)
The officers had nothing to say.
I was so upset.
What did the officer say?
I said, "Take me to the hospital. I think my finger is cut."
And he said, "You are fine."
(You are fine.)
"It's just a cut."
- "You are fine." - My goodness.
And shouldn't you ask your husband to buy the snack?
I have a concern regarding that matter.
My husband never helps out with the dishes or anything.
I do all the work.
On the day my second child was hospitalised,
my first child had to...
go to kindergarten.
So I asked him to take her to kindergarten.
The bus for kindergarten picks up my child in the morning,
but he was still sleeping.
My husband isn't very reliable,
so I can't ask him to buy things.
I can only depend on my mum.
But I am sure that he can buy snack for you.
His job keeps him away for days.
He is never home when I'm craving for something.
- He is busy. - Yes.
Your wife says that you don't help her out.
That's why she depends on her mother so much.
I'm always grateful to my mother-in-law for...
always helping my wife.
It's not like I don't want to help her.
I'm the emergency contact of an insurance company.
So I often work overtime at night...
and I can't help out much with household chores.
But it seems like she is using me as an excuse...
to make her life easier with her mother's help.
Wouldn't you agree that your wife is irresponsible?
She was worse before we got married.
(She was worse before we got married.)
Seriously, my husband...
- Your husband is a busy man. - I get that he is busy.
I get that.
If he is tired, I would understand if he goes to bed.
But he goes out to drink whenever he has the chance.
And even when he is reading a book to the children,
he doesn't stop playing games on his mobile phone.
And I once had to install an electric outlet.
When I asked him to do it, it took him two months.
- When you asked him to do it? - That's right.
It wasn't intentional.
I was just tired.
But you play games on your mobile phone.
I only need to use my fingers for that.
It's the same for installing an electric outlet.
It's not like you need to use your toes for it.
When I went back home,
I took a shower and thought about getting it done.
But I fell asleep and another day began.
They are the same. They only care about themselves.
- That's right. - They are the same.
Has he still not installed the electric outlet?
My dad came over and installed it.
You ask for your dad's help, too?
That must be her dad, sitting next to her.
Does she ask you for your help all the time?
It's not as much as my wife, but it does happen often.
He looks very angry.
What does she ask you to do?
What does she usually ask you?
She once asked me to fix her window.
The window kept opening from the outside.
When she asks her husband to fix it,
he leaves it for months.
Since it upsets my daughter, I would go over to help.
You should say something to your son-in-law.
Since his job keeps him away,
- I can't scold him. - That's true.
I help out my daughter because her husband is busy.
So it must not be a concern for you.
You love your daughter.
I do, but they should take care of their own household...
like we take care of our own household.
I remember once my daughter came to our place.
My wife was taking care of the children...
while my daughter was having dinner and watching TV.
Seeing that made me angry.
So I yelled at her.
"Finish your meal quickly and watch your kids."
"Your mother needs to eat, too." That's what I said.
What did your daughter say?
She finished her meal quickly and watched her kids,
because I scolded her.
The current situation is very tiring.
Are you tired of her, too?
Do you help out with household chores?
My wife is often out, helping out our eldest daughter,
but we have two other children.
So I cook them dinner on numerous occasions.
And I do the laundry, too.
- Is he speaking the truth? - Yes, he helps out a lot.
He treats me very nicely.
I want to use this opportunity...
to thank my husband.
(You're a great husband.)
He is amazing.
(This couple needs to learn from him.)
If you help your wife at home,
she wouldn't call her mother for help so often.
I would like to help,
but...
I can't always help because of my work.
If your husband helps you, would you call your mother less often?
My husband and my mum help me out in different ways.
How are they different? If he can babysit children well,
you won't need anyone else.
He isn't good at looking after the kids.
No one is naturally good at it. You get better as time goes by.
It has been four years since we had children.
He's still a terrible babysitter.
They are irresponsible. What should we do?
How would you feel if your daughter gets married...
and acts like you?
I will gladly help her. I know how hard it is.
I can help her out better than my mum.
But you can't do anything on your own.
You heard what she said. Do you believe her?
I bet I will end up helping out.
Even after your granddaughter gets married?
Yes. I can see it happening.
- You shouldn't have to. - My goodness.
(Stop making my wife work.)
Have you ever refused to help her?
I had a hospital appointment for a breast cancer checkup.
She called me in the morning...
and asked me to help her take her child to the hospital.
I explained to her that I couldn't miss my appointment,
she said, "My daughter is really sick. Help me."
I had no choice but to take my granddaughter to the hospital...
- before my appointment. - You should have said no.
I told you it was a checkup for breast cancer.
- Yes, a checkup for cancer. - She still hasn't asked me...
about the the test results.
- That's too much. - Weren't you curious...
about the test results?
And your mother had an appointment for a breast cancer checkup.
Unless your child had a serious injury,
- you should have been considerate. - I would have gone with her.
Follow me outside.
(Follow me outside.)
- Follow me outside. - What is wrong with you?
- My heart breaks for her mother. - How could you be so indifferent?
I didn't know.
I vaguely remember her telling me about a breast cancer checkup,
but I was too busy to concern myself with that.
How sick was your child?
The baby had a cold.
(The baby had a cold.)
- A cold? - Can't you take your daughter...
to the hospital alone?
I have a four-year-old and a two-year-old child.
It's difficult to go anywhere with them.
I did it with three children.
It is hard, but many mothers manage to go places...
- with two children. - I think...
her son-in-law is also at fault, too.
Did you know about this incident?
No, I didn't.
Now that you know, how do you feel?
I feel bad.
There is a reason why he didn't know.
We have a group chat for the family.
That's cool.
I created the chat room for the family,
so that the family can share things and talk.
But my daughter is clever.
When she asks me for help, she uses a private chat instead.
- Oh I see. - Okay.
It happens all the time. That's why my son-in-law doesn't know anything.
(She has many secrets.)
(Family chat room and private chatroom)
(In the private chat, she asks for help constantly.)
(The two chat rooms are vastly different.)
You should reply to her demands in the group chat room.
She does this all the time,
so it's hard to do that.
Has she done anything that made you extremely sad?
- I'm sure there's more. - I do have.
- What is it? - My goodness.
Goodness.
You should say everything that's on your mind.
You daughter needs to know.
That's right.
(She lets out all her sadness.)
- She must have been very sad. - Children can be so cruel.
- About three years ago, - Yes.
I had a hysterectomy operation...
- because of a tumour. - My goodness.
- Even my ovaries were removed. - I see.
Then a drop in my estrogen level caused me to go through menopause.
It causes women to feel depressed.
My daughter had also given birth to her first child at that time.
She came to the house for a postnatal care.
Because I was in poor health, everything seemed so hard.
But my daughter kept saying, "Mum, change her diapers."
"Please feed my baby." She kept asking favours.
She must have known that you had a surgery.
- Of course. - Didn't she ask about your health?
No, she never asked.
I sent her home...
so that she could learn on her own.
But she came back, saying that she couldn't do it alone.
She said it's too hard to raise a child.
It was your choice to get married.
- Your mother struggled so much. - Seriously.
Did you know that your mother was struggling?
I was in poor health after my first birth.
So I couldn't take care of my mum.
I feel bad.
- You'll still ask for help. - Yes.
- You will? - Yes.
- What is wrong with you? - How would you feel...
if your mother's health deteriorates and she can no longer help you?
I haven't thought about my mother getting sick.
- Start thinking about it. - She is so used to getting help.
- I think... - Wouldn't it be hard for you...
if your mother is gone?
I don't think I can live without her help.
- That's how difficult it would be? - Yes.
You depend on her too much.
- Seriously. - It's no longer a virtue...
for mothers to bottle everything up.
- I'm glad you came today. - You should speak your mind.
- You shouldn't help her anymore. - You should speak your mind.
Has your son-in-law upset you in any way?
We understand it's difficult to say.
You can go to the sauna by yourselves.
Don't make me watch your kids.
You always call me whenever you go to a kids' cafe.
Go by yourselves. Don't call me.
- That's all I want to ask him. - All right.
You are not at work during those times.
- So don't ask for her help. - Whenever we go to a sauna,
I don't want her to come with us...
because of those reasons.
Then you should watch your own kids...
so that she can enjoy the sauna.
The kids won't come near me.
Make them come to you.
- They are driving me insane. - So...
What is wrong with them?
We will go on our own.
And when I'm not working, I will do my best...
to help out my wife so that you can take care of your health.
If she asks you to install an outlet or change a light bulb,
don't procrastinate and get the job done right away.
I don't intentionally procrastinate.
I just forget.
- You forget? - You forget?
- It's just... - Your wife must remind you.
It's on my mind,
- but... - Come here. Come down to the stage.
Come over here.
Come over here. Come down to the stage.
When you do, brace yourself for a beating.
- It must have been hard for her. - I know.
- Seriously. - If you are forgetful,
- post a memo on the fridge. - That will work.
- I have done it in the past. - Okay.
Even after he sees the list, he doesn't do anything.
He says, "I will do it after I take a shower and watch TV."
When I nag at him, he says, "I don't want to do it anymore."
- For goodness' sake. - That's your problem.
Submit that concern for a different episode.
We are talking about your mother's concern.
Her father should submit his concern, too.
That's right.
(I will do that.)
This is your last chance...
to say something to your daughter and son-in-law.
I'm studying at a theological seminary...
to live my own life.
- You go to a theological seminary. - Yes.
When I graduate, I want to live as Lee Jong Suk,
not someone's mother.
You want to live as a woman.
I want to live my life doing things I like.
So I wish my family...
would understand and support me.
You should draw the line here.
Tell her what you can or can't help with.
- Announce your decision. - That's right.
Don't ask me to make appointments in the morning.
You make appointments for her?
The hospital doesn't take appointments over the phone,
So then I have to go to the hospital in the morning.
- Early in the morning. - You go there in person?
The hospital opens at 8 am,
- so I go wait beforehand. - Come on down.
I draw a number and wait for my turn.
- At the hospital? - Then I make a reservation...
and call my daughter to tell her the time.
- We go to the hospital together. - Unbelievable.
This has become a routine.
You learn to be a mother on your own.
- That's how you become a mother. - All right.
There are times when I need you.
So...
you should help me in those times.
The problem is that you ask her for help too often.
You call her too often.
You call the ambulance for a small cut.
That's right.
(You call the ambulance for a small cut.)
It's time for the guests to vote.
- Let's start with Kyung Rok. - All right.
I wish her daughter would be more independent...
so that her mum can go on a trip before she gets too old.
- Right. - They can even go together.
I also think it's a concern.
I also think it's a concern. It is a concern.
I think it's a concern.
Since I will become a father soon,
I'm trying to understand the difference between...
good parents and kind parents.
Good parents...
can say no...
when they have to.
Kind parents, like her,
give their children everything...
just because they're their children.
I'm worried her daughter...
will become a kind parent, not a good parent, as well.
I hope she'll become a good parent from now on.
- Well said. - Thank you.
Please press the button...
if you think this is a concern.
(What does the audience think?)
A lot of people are pressing the button.
I think...
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - they might win.
- Done. - Done.
Say something to your mum who was so frustrated...
that she came on the show today.
I didn't know it was so hard for you.
I appreciate it.
And please continue to help me.
Oh my gosh.
(We give up.)
- I mean... - Come down here for a moment.
I can't do this alone.
You are my lifeline.
You've always been one and will be always my lifeline.
I'll try a bit...
- to stand on my feet. - Try harder.
Yes, I'll try harder, Mum.
Thank you. And I love you.
Tell her on which occasions only...
you're going to ask her for help.
I'll make a list when I get home.
- I have too much on my mind. - Don't call her because of snack.
Okay.
Please reveal the result.
(Reveal the result.)
The last digit...
- Is it 170? - How many will it be?
Will it be 170?
- It's more than 100. - Will it be 170?
Will we see them next week?
- I think it'll be 150 or 160. - Look.
(Surprised)
(They're the new winner.)
(We didn't expect to win.)
- It means it's a serious concern. - Right.
(Cheer up.)
- Please say a few words. - When they became the new winner...
When they became the new winners,
- the previous winner looked happy. - Yes, he did.
- Why? - I was thinking...
that they have a serious problem.
- Okay. - You are talking about her concern?
I have children too.
- And I should be more careful. - You have a serious problem, too.
Okay, thank you.
(Okay, thank you.)
You can go to your seats.
"Lazybones" is the new winner.
("Lazybones" beat "Adventurous Husband".)
The next story is from a little girl...
who has already realised life is unfair.
- She's too young to realise that. - Yes.
Hello, I'm a 14-year-old girl with a slender figure.
We'll see about that.
(We'll have to check if she's actually slender.)
I'm writing this because I'm having the biggest crisis...
in my 14 years on this planet.
- I'm being treated like an outcast. - What?
I used to be an only child and get all the love from my parents.
But when my little sister was born six years ago,
I lost all their attention.
Every weekend, I help my mum clean the house.
I vacuum and mop...
- three rooms... - She's a good girl.
plus the living room.
Then I dust the house until it is spotless.
Doesn't that deserve some compliments?
But my mum says,
"Moon Yu Bin,"
"what are you doing?"
"Can't you be more careful like your little sister?"
- "How adorable." - That's discouraging.
"That's my girl."
- Discrimination is bad. - "Moon Yu Bin!"
"Wipe the drawers and tables!"
and he says this to my sister, "Let's play!"
(That's sad.)
I'm the one who clean the house but why do they love my sister more?
When I was getting used to being an outcast,
things got even worse.
When I was 12, my little brother was born.
(She now has a little brother, too.)
When I try to talk to my parents,
"Mum and Dad, what are you up to?"
"Don't act like a baby."
"Be quiet. I'm trying to put your brother to sleep."
- That must be hurting. - Is this the life of the eldest?
Once, I got 100 percent on a math test.
- Great. - That deserves a compliment.
"It would be an embarrassment if you didn't get 100 percent right."
- "Put it away." - What's wrong with them?
"My little boy."
"You are so cute."
My test score was pushed aside...
because of my sister and brother.
Mum and Dad, I don't want to feel left out.
Can't you pay more attention to me?
This is the end.
She must be so sad.
- She must be very sad. - Yes.
- I can't relate to this story. - Why not?
- I'm an only child. - You are?
My parents still treat me like a prince.
What about you, Kyung Rok?
My little sister is seven years younger than me.
I nagged my parents because I wanted a little sister.
That's not why they had your sister.
(That's not why they had your sister.)
Really?
I don't have any cousins or nieces that are around my age.
I didn't fit in with...
either the younger or older groups.
That was when I felt left out.
This girl is so sad...
because she feels left out.
Let's hear from her.
Please come out!
(Who is the girl who feels left out of the family?)
Hello.
- You should help her. - What?
Hye Seong, can you go and help her?
- Please help her. - Help her.
(Moon Yu Bin)
There you are.
Welcome.
She is slender.
- Right. - Yes, she is.
Take your shoes off. She's so small.
Her parents must not feed her well, either.
(Her parents don't feed her enough.)
She should eat for herself.
Please introduce yourself.
Hello, I've turned 14 this year and...
- my name is Moon Yu Bin. - She's tall for her age.
(Welcome)
By the way,
do you really feel left out?
I'm sad I'm treated differently just because I'm the eldest child.
When we had fried chicken or something,
- When you had fried chicken. - Yes.
I took three pieces of chicken,
and Mum told me to stop and leave some for my brother and sister.
- She only takes three pieces. - How old are they?
My sister is 6 years old and my brother is 10 months.
How can a 10-month-old baby eat fried chicken?
(A 10-month-old baby eating fried chicken instead of drinking milk)
- What makes you most sad? - Can he even eat it?
My mum calls me...
by my full name.
- It sounds very cold. - Okay.
But to my brother and sister,
she says something like "My baby girl" or "My baby boy"...
with so much love.
I had never been called by my name until I was in middle school.
(Yeong Ja was never called by her name?)
- Did they call you "Hey"? - My parents called my big sister...
- by her name. - By her name?
They called my brother by his name too. But to me...
(Grumbling)
- I thought that was my name. - That's sad.
That was funny.
A lot of mothers were like that in the old days.
(That's how Yeong Ja grew up.)
How about your dad, then?
When he comes home from work,
I always welcome him home.
But he never pays attention to me...
and looks for my brother and sister instead.
Isn't this because they are still so young...
and need their parents more?
But my parents are really cold.
Even when I got full marks on math, which is my weakest subject,
my mum said all the other kids must have gotten full marks, too.
She said it's only the stupid ones that can't get full marks.
Did she say all the other kids would get full marks, too?
I was always the stupid kid, then.
(I was always the stupid kid.)
Do they make you run a lot of errands, too?
Yes, they tell me to put out the trash...
when it's late at night, around 8 pm.
8 pm is not that late, I guess.
- It's not too late. - But the sun sets early these days.
I tell Mum that I'm scared and I don't want to go out.
Then she says,
"No one will want to kidnap you. Hurry up and go out."
- That's too mean. - She says things like that.
- That must hurt her. - I know.
Let's meet Yu Bin's parents...
who made her so sad.
Hello, nice to meet you.
- Hello. - Hello.
Even I feel scared when I put out the trash at night.
It's quite dark.
And sometimes, the cats scare me.
- And he's a man. - Wouldn't Yu Bin feel scared?
As you can see, Yu Bin is a big girl.
What?
(She's a big girl?)
- She's so small. - I can't believe this.
She's so small.
- She's as tall as me. - Wait.
I can cover her up.
I can see her.
- I can see her. Yeong Ja is thin. - Where's Yu Bin?
- Can you still see her? - Where's Yu Bin?
- Can you see her? - Where's Yu Bin?
(I can't see her.)
- You think she's big? - You covered her up.
Give me your leg.
Look. Is she a big girl?
- She's so thin. - She's very thin.
- She's small. - She's thinner than me.
Look. Do you think she's big?
Now I can see...
- she's kind of small. - She is.
- She's small. - She is.
- She's so thin. - Apart from everything else,
can't you put out the trash at night?
As it is Yu Bin's responsibility,
I want her to be responsible.
Is it your responsibility?
I found that out...
- a few days ago. - A few days ago?
She found out a few days ago.
(She just found out.)
I have a question.
Do you ever give her a kiss or hug?
- With Yu Bin? - Between you and Yu Bin.
My dad didn't go to work...
until I gave him a kiss even when I was in high school.
- That's also a problem. - It was always like that.
- I was very concerned. - That was a bit too much.
I think your dad just didn't want to go to work.
- He never goes to work. - What about you?
Yu Bin's brother and sister are still so young.
They always ask me...
for kisses and hugs.
That's why I give them a lot of kisses and hugs.
But Yu Bin said...
she asks for it, too.
But you push her away.
As you can see, her brother and sister...
are prettier than her.
That's why.
- No, they aren't. - Yu Bin is too big.
- She's too big now. - You shouldn't say that.
(Yu Bin is pretty, too.)
Yu Bin nagged us for a brother or a sister.
That's why we got her...
a brother and a sister.
- Is it easy to make babies? - But now she says...
she feels left out.
- That makes me sad. - Let me ask you one more time.
Is it really because of Yu Bin that you gave birth to her siblings?
Yes, she nagged a lot.
It can't be because of her.
Even until she was eight,
she asked us for a little sister or brother...
or a dog.
So we got her a puppy.
But it grew up faster than her.
- Dogs grow up fast. - That's why...
we had to get her a brother and a sister.
You wanted a little brother or sister.
Why did you change your mind?
I lost all my parents' attention...
to my brother and sister.
- You didn't expect this. - No.
I won...
a writing competition once.
(She won a writing competition.)
And I was awarded in front of many people.
- Okay. - But my mum complained...
that the prize money was too small.
She should have complained to your school instead.
Why didn't you praise her?
I was worried, if I praise her every time,
- it might spoil her. - Goodness.
That was why.
It seems like...
you're trying to toughen her up.
It's because she's the first child.
Yu Bin brought all the prizes she won...
to win her parents' compliments.
- Are they prizes? - Yes.
She brought them.
Let's take a look.
- What was this for? - It's the one with the prize money.
Is this the one with the prize money?
- Is this for her writing? - It had the small prize money.
- It was for the writing contest. - It had the prize money.
In addition to this,
- She has a lot. - The Good Idea Award,
- The Good Idea Award? - The Good Reader Award,
She must read a lot, too.
- Good Painter Award. - She can paint well, too?
(And what is this now?)
- An award for English. - An award for English.
(An award for English)
There's one in English.
Another award.
(This is not the end.)
And another and another.
- She has so many. - And another.
- Another for painting. - For painting.
The Biggest Loaner Award?
- Did you get a loan? - Did you get a loan?
From a library.
- It's from a library. - It's for borrowing many books.
She reads a lot, too.
She won an Excellence Award.
- There's even a Good Student Award. - Even a Good Student Award.
Good Student Award Two.
- Season Two. - Yes.
- Good Student Award Three. - Good Student Award Three.
(She must be a very good student.)
There wasn't a fourth one.
- She won so many prizes. - She has so many.
Good Book Report Award.
Why didn't you compliment her when she wins so many prizes?
I'm wondering that, too.
(You should have complimented her more.)
Mum says she was worried that compliments might spoil you.
What do you think?
I think compliments would motivate me to work harder...
- because... - Yes.
I'm thirsty for compliments.
I think I'll work even harder...
if my mum compliments me.
Why didn't you compliment her?
Did your dad compliment you?
I did compliment her...
when she won an English speech competition.
I felt proud so I complimented her.
- Was that the only occasion? - Only once?
- What about for the other prizes? - What about the others?
- She's won so many prizes. - These days,
schools give out too many prizes.
- They give out too many prizes? - Yes.
She was given an award for being a good student three times.
That's what I'm saying. They give out too many prizes.
She should...
stop winning awards.
Stop winning awards.
(Maybe you're right.)
Do your parents compliment your brother and sister, then?
They compliment my sister...
even for just writing "I love you, Mum and Dad".
They give her a pat on the back.
I can see the difference.
Yu Bin tends to look down rather than looking people in the eye.
But her little sister...
obviously knows she's adorable.
She keeps...
trying to attract others' attention.
Even now, she knows we're talking about her.
But she pretends she doesn't know.
I'm worried...
how this will affect them differently as they grow up.
What does your sister think of you?
As she knows Mum and Dad adore her,
she looks down on me.
- She does? - What does she do?
When we eat,
- she kicks me under the table. - Under the table?
When I tell her to stop,
my mum says I shouldn't be too harsh on a baby.
It was clearly her fault.
Also, she knows I get told off a lot...
and don't receive a lot of attention from my mum.
So my sister once told me she's my mum, not your mum.
She even says something like that.
- Really? - I almost hit her then.
Let's hear from her little sister.
Hello.
- Hi, Ju Hyun. - Hi, Ju Hyun.
- Say, "hi". - Hello.
We know you're cute. Now say "hi".
Did you really tell your sister that Mum is yours?
Why did you do that?
My sister didn't listen to Mum.
- She didn't? - Was that why?
Do you listen to Mum?
Yes.
Who do you think Mum likes more, you or your sister?
She likes Sung Jin more.
(Sun Jin, 10 months old)
- It bothers you, too. - She's stressed, too.
- She's stressed, too. - She's so young.
Ju Hyun is stressed, too.
Is that why you kicked your big sister?
She kicked me, too.
- Did she kick you, too? - Did she start it?
- Yes. - They have different stories.
Did you kick her first?
There she goes again.
She acts nicely in front of grown ups...
but she glares at me when we're alone.
(When did I do that?)
Then does anyone ever compliment you?
- There's one person. - Who is it?
- It's my grandmother. - Your grandmother?
That's why she can stand the sadness.
- It must be her. Hello. - She looks kind.
- Hello, I'm Yu Bin's grandmother. - Hello.
(I'm Yu Bin's grandmother.)
- You heard your granddaughter. - Yes.
Do you understand why she feels sad?
Yes, Yu Bin's mother is my daughter...
but she's too mean.
- You think so? - She's mean to Yu Bin?
Yes.
- She should listen to you. - Who's your favourite?
- Among my grandchildren? - Yes.
- It's Yu Bin... - My favourite is the little boy.
The girls are bigger now.
- Sorry? - Still,
when Yu Bin brings home an award,
- no one compliments her. - I see.
That's why I compliment her and give her some pocket money.
- You must love your grandmother. - Yes.
My parents don't love me.
But I have at least someone who loves me.
Which do you prefer, compliments or pocket money?
Pocket money.
(I prefer pocket money.)
She's realistic.
(She's a smart girl.)
But your brother and sister are still young.
Wouldn't it get better once they grow up?
Even when they grow up,
my parents are thinking of having another baby.
- What? - Another baby?
Then your son will be having the same problem.
Once, we saw a family with 12 kids on TV.
And my mum told my dad,
"Should we have another baby?"
I told her they shouldn't...
but Mum said I shouldn't concern myself with...
grown up matters.
Why don't you want another baby?
When we have another baby, they will not only leave me out.
- I'll become invisible to them. - Invisible?
You're worried about that.
But they can't make babies just because they want to.
It's not easy.
Your dad's determination matters the most.
Let's ask her dad. Are you planning on having another baby?
No, that's too much for me.
(That's too much for me.)
- Is that too much for you? - Is it?
But,
if my wife keeps persuading me, I have no choice.
She must be very persuasive.
(She must be very persuasive.)
I'm very curious.
Ju Hyun.
- Yes? - Do you want another baby.
I don't want Mum to go to the hospital.
You don't want her to go to the hospital.
(You're making me look bad.)
Are you saying Ju Hyun speaks and looks...
differently at you, when you're alone with her?
How does she look at you?
She looks like...
an evil lady from a drama.
(She looks like an evil lady from a drama.)
She looks so foxy...
when she says, rolling her eyes.
"She's not your mum."
"You should leave our house."
- Did she tell you to leave home? - Yes.
You'll understand...
when you suffer the same thing from your younger sibling.
What if your brother tells you to leave home?
- I mean... - She seems to be repenting.
(Is she repenting?)
(I don't believe you.)
What do you do when you want your mum to understand you?
- I feel shy to tell her directly. - Okay.
So I write letters to her.
But I can never tell...
- whether she read it or not. - She never writes back?
She neither writes back nor does she ever mention it.
She says...
I should focus on studying instead.
But you're already an outstanding student.
How many letters have you written so far?
I've written more than 15 letters.
What happened, Ma'am? Why don't you write back?
Well, in her letters she writes...
that she will stop lying and keep her promises.
That's what she writes.
But she never keeps her words for more than three days.
- That makes me upset. - You feel upset because...
she doesn't keep her promises she wrote in the letters.
- Do you have the letters? - Do you keep them?
I threw most of them away.
- That would hurt. - I think I have kept 1 or 2.
That's too sad.
(She threw away all the letters?)
(I want to cry.)
- So you have one letter left. - Yes.
Can you show us?
I think Yu Bin has it.
- Do you have it? - She has a letter I wrote to her.
- Is this the only letter? - A letter from her mum.
This one is from me.
We should read the one Yu Bin wrote first.
"Dear Mum, I'm Yu Bin."
"I'm sorry about today. I tried but it wasn't easy."
"I'm sorry I fought with my sister and made you worried."
"I promise I'll try harder not to make you worried."
"From your troublesome daughter, Yu Bin."
- How sweet of her. - I think so, too.
- This is what her mum wrote back. - She's really kind.
"It's me."
"I love you so much even though I'm not good at showing it."
"They used to say, every child is dear to his parents."
"But they now say, every child is precious to varying degrees."
"When I find out you're not my sweet little girl any longer,"
"it makes me very perplexed."
- She expresses herself well. - "I hope we'll laugh more."
"From your mum who tries to love you more."
The last part bothers me.
"From your mum..."
"who tries to love you more."
We'd like to think our parents love us no matter what.
But she sounded like she was trying hard to love her own daughter.
That makes me a little concerned.
I didn't mean that.
I said that to let things go rather than...
- getting angry at that time. - Oh, I see.
Weren't you like her when you were her age?
I wasn't like her.
I don't think I made obvious lies like her.
Maybe that's what you think. Let's ask your mother.
Excuse me, ma'am?
Let's hear what she thinks about that.
Please be honest. What kind of daughter was she?
- How was she around this age? - When she was a teenager.
- When she was in high school, - Did she lie?
she stole her dad's motorcycle.
- Did she steal the motorcycle? - Oh, goodness!
Yes, she rode her dad's 250cc motorcycle.
- Did you say 250cc? - Wow!
And she took four of her friends on the back.
Four?
She had never driven a motorcycle before that.
She had never practised driving, but she gave her friends a ride.
- There was a paddy field, - She was a troublemaker!
she crashed the motorcycle and...
her brother was injured so badly, his intestines came out.
She had done this without my permission.
She was a wild woman.
(She was a wild woman.)
You shouldn't complain about your daughter.
- You were a troublemaker, too! - Do you admit it?
I admit it.
- Of course. - You were worse than Yu Bin.
I think Yu Bin is a very good girl compared to you.
She's a good girl although she did lie...
- behind her parents' back. - She's a good girl.
How does your dad make you upset?
Once I wrote a letter to my mum, but...
my dad read the first few sentences. Then he started yelling at me,
and ripped off the letter.
What?
I can never forget about it.
- Of course, you can't. That hurts. - What does she mean by this?
Why did you do that?
I was angry about what she wrote in the letter.
She was saying how much she was angry at her mum.
She was asking for her mum's apology.
- So I thought that was very rude. - I see.
And she could have got into more trouble if my wife read the letter.
Yes, it could have been more serious.
Did you really write that?
That's a misunderstanding.
On the second page, I did write what I was sorry about and I apologised.
- He didn't read the whole letter. - Yes. He...
read the first few sentences only.
- That can be upsetting. - Sir.
- He yelled at me. - Is this true?
The most important part of letters is the first few sentences.
You lost your temper once you read the first part.
Why don't you communicate with your daughter more often?
I tried to, but...
- she grew up so much. - I see.
- So I feel a little uncomfortable. - She's still young.
(Yes, he kept saying that I'm not young anymore.)
In your opinion, how do you think...
your parents see you?
I think I am just...
not so special anymore. I think they lost interest in me.
- Oh, no. - Yes. What she thinks matters.
But you must know that...
that's not how your parents think.
Parents never lose interest in their kids.
But it's important that her parents help her not to think this way.
Her feeling shows that she needs more...
- interaction with her parents. - Yes, I agree.
Now, what do you think about this?
What does she mean to you for real?
She is a very precious daughter who was raised and treasured by...
a thoughtless mother.
I see.
How about you, dad?
I'm very sorry that I couldn't be nice enough as I expected...
myself to be. I feel sorry for making her feel that way.
- Do you feel sorry about that? - Yes.
Since she is your precious daughter,
why don't you give her words of compliment?
I'm sure there were moments you wanted to compliment her.
You might hold it to raise her strictly.
Let's give her some praises, saying what she's good at, and so on.
I think it's important to make some compliments for her in words.
I'm very grateful that you always keep your smile on your face...
- in spite of tough adolescence. - Her mum knows that, too.
You're a talented writer. And every time you win awards...
in English Speaking Contest, I feel very proud of you too.
Thank you, Yu Bin!
Do you have anything else to add, dad?
I agree with her mum. She gets awarded a lot for her writing.
And thanks to you, we are on TV.
(Thanks to you, we are on TV.)
You are good with your sister too. You're the best, Yu Bin.
(Our oldest daughter is the best!)
That was very nice to hear that.
How are you feeling now, Yu Bin?
It's the happiest day in my...
- 13 years. - It's your happiest day?
(That's good to hear!)
There is a saying...
someone who has been loved can show love for others.
That's right.
- That's true. - Lastly...
Now it's your turn to talk, Yu Bin.
Although I've physically grown, but I'm not a grown up yet.
So, I think I need more good words from you.
I wish we can communicate more too.
And please stop having another kid.
I want to stay like this, just four of us, happily ever after.
I see. And since you have a chance, tell your sister something too.
Eun Ji, I'm 8 years older than you are.
Since I heard some compliments from my mum,
I don't think I'm leaving yet.
I will stay with you longer until I go to dormitory school.
Tell her that Mum is yours.
And before she was into you, she was...
once my mum too.
Your mum now is second mum.
(What?)
Not a second mum exactly,
- you should've said "our" mum. - Yes, she is our mum.
That's right.
Okay, now it's the time for our guests to vote.
Do you think if this is something to worry?
- What do you think? - I think it's definitely a worry.
What about you, Kwon So Hyun?
I agree with him too.
And you, Kim Hye Seong?
I think it's a concern, too.
Because, this kind of problem can...
damage a relationship among siblings.
I think it's important for parents to maintain the balance...
- among siblings. - I see.
I agree that it's a concern, too.
What Crown Prince Sado really wanted was...
- his father's compliment too. - That's right.
So please give her some praises from now on.
You weren't the only one! Crown Prince Sado had a hard time too.
I see. If you also think her situation is concern,
please vote for her.
(What does the audience think?)
Please press the button!
In 5, 4, 3,
- and 2, 1! - Time is up!
Do you have any words for your daughter?
I'm glad to hear about your feelings today.
I will try harder not to make you feel isolated.
I will be nice and make compliments until...
you tell me it's enough.
- I love you, Yu Bin! - Thank you!
Okay, now.
Let's see the result.
Please show us the result!
The last digit is seven.
Is it over 100?
- Yes, it's more than 100. - Oh, wow!
It's more than 100.
The result is...
- 137! - Oh!
Thanks for coming today, Yu Bin!
So, "Lazybones" is taking their first victory today!
They will be given 1000 dollar gift certificate. Congratulations!
(Congratulations!)
Until the day we are all worry free...
Hello will continue to counsel you!
(Hello will continue to counsel you!)